September 6, 2020
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September 6, 2020 Rauda Khan

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It seems like we all are in the real game of pretending. We pretend to be happy, yet deep down we are suffering the most, we are pretending to be the one who makes everyone happy, but in reality, everyone is making us feel down, we pretend to tell everyone that this world can be the place to live, but in reality for us, it is the living hell? And meanwhile, wearing this fake mask, have we ever thought that what if people knew the real us? What would be they think or how would they treat us?

We will be discussing the real us, and that be 100% where we don’t have to pretend about anything. Where we are just ourselves and that ourselves is not just known by us only, but everyone in our lives knows the real us. And what would they think and act upon by it if they knew the real us?

"Never Made Fun of Your Insecurities"

We all have somewhat been in a phase of our lives where we are not comfortable in vocalizing our insecurities and highlighting them. And just because we never show the real side of us not telling the people that those specific things, we are insecurities people are no aware of them. And there is a ritual in our society where we all tend to make the fun of everyone’s insecurities to make the event or a thing a little bit funnier. And the victim whose fun is being made is also somehow convinced to laugh on it as he does not want to show the people their real side. But what happens, in the end, is that person comes into the room and cry the whole night because that’s what affected him.

And over here I would like to say that it’s your mistake who didn’t take their stand because no one is going to do that except for you. If people would know that these insecurities affect you, they would never make fun of them. They would never point it for you and lose your confidence rather than boosting it up.

“I have insecurities, of course, but I don’t hang out with anyone who points them out to me.” – Adele

They Would Never Take You for Granted

Most of us invest so much of our beautiful times in our lives on the most special people of our lives. We would take our time out of our busy lives to spend our time with them, we would cherish and crave for the beautiful moments that we have spent with each other, we would always be there for them in there ups and lows, we would always understand there acts and try to co-operate with them, we will love them unconditionally, and the list goes on and on. But the main point comes, and the part comes that are they take us the same way?

Here comes the sad reality, and that is the importance and value you are giving to a specific person who doesn’t have to give you the same.

They take all your efforts for granted, and this thing can’t go hand in hand.

And when you realized this, it hurts the most. So, if people knew how much effort you are giving to them and how much of time take, they would never take you for granted because they need to be aware of the love and energy you are putting in them.

“The only person that deserves a special place in your life is someone that never made you feel like you were an option in theirs.” -Shannon L. Alder

They Would Respect Your Privacy

Some people are extrovert, some are introvert, and then some comes called an ambivert. And we all are ambivert at some phases of our lives.

We are utterly open with some things and telling everything to our closed one about our lives. But in your bluest days, you don’t want to engage with anyone on your lives you want to interact with the closest friend and family in your life which is entirely normal.

But people need to know that you don’t have to be introvert or extrovert to be private. And they should respect everyone’s privacy rather than creating different scenarios.

“I never said, ‘I want to be alone.’ I only said ‘I want to be let alone!’ There is all the difference.”
― Greta Garbo, Garbo

They Would Understand the Reason Behind Your Every Act

Having fun, outgoing, chill, loving, happy, sad, emotional, and a lot more these are so many moods.

And then there comes a phrase called “mood swings” which is the typical human nature. Sometimes we act like a happy go lucky person, and on the other time, we are rudest and meanest.

But people should understand that there are always reasons behind it.

If someone is acting completely different from their normal behavior, then there must be thousands of reasons, and if they are not comfortable about telling, then we should understand them.

And if people knew the real you, they would never leave you for your different acts because they know what is ongoing and in going you.

“Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.”
― Marvin J. Ashton

Grades Don’t Matter for You

Us kids always have this unsaid pressure on our shoulders that we have to be perfect in our studies. We have to be the number one among all the family members and at the top of our classmates. With that, we as a kid gets in an unsaid competition of being the number one in our grades.

But if people knew the real us, they would have known that this is the pressure of the society or we may say our parents. Good or bad grades do not matter; you can be successful with bad grades. You can not achieve your goals with good grades as well.

Positivity and happiness are all that matters if it’s meant for us, we will get it. Grades are just grades and nothing more than that.

“When I was growing up, I’d study for days trying to get good grades. When I’d get an ‘A,’ I’d feel elation for about 30 seconds, and then a feeling of emptiness.” Andrew Yang

I want to end this topic by saying we should be more vocal about our feelings. Keeping our feelings and the real us to ourselves causes us a lot of damage in a lot of ways that we can’t even imagine. And it would be better if you try to understand the other person as well because we have no idea what this world is going through

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Rauda Khan

Rauda Khan

Rauda Riaz is the Lead of content here at ETCETERA. She's written content for ETCETERA's Marketing Articles for a few times now, She has the ability to provide the best content and is a quick learner as well. Acceptance of her good or bad work and hardworking writer, this sentence fully define her.”